In life, until you dare to be different, you cannot make any difference; the family that must make a difference must do things differently. God never consulted man before He instituted marriage and the family.
When God steps into a family no matter how battered and shattered the family is, it turns out to be great. Without God in a family, every effort will be futile. Every family that must have life must have God; God can bring something out of nothing. The Word of God (as a Spirit) is what guarantees life, beauty and elegance in every successful family.
John 6:63 (KJV) It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.
God has given us the manual to operate the family which is the Bible. The word of God must be your foundation in life and family. To be different in life and family is dependent on the attention you give to God and His Word. No man will make any impact until he accepts change; ability to change has great rewards. Your ability to change is an evidence of maturity and maturity is not of age but of understanding of the Word of God.
2 Timothy 3:16 (KJV) All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:
The Word of God is an effective key for establishing a family with a difference and so it must be your guiding tool. You must value the word of God because it is the compass of your life. You must come to a conclusion that whatever God’s Word says is final.
Genesis 2:18 (KJV) And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Marriage is for help and not for hurt. Husband and wife are meant to be helpers in all areas of life; spiritually, mentally, socially, physically, financially and otherwise.
Genesis 2:15, 19 (KJV) And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.
Any man who is not productive in life should not go for a wife. You must develop yourself and be able to accept responsibility and take decisions. In marriage, you must be able to develop yourself mentally in order to be of help to your spouse.
Your family cannot enjoy distinction if you remain idle. Idleness breeds poverty. God believes in work; He created the earth and gave man work to till the garden and name the creatures before He gave him a wife (Eve); so it is work before marriage.
Abraham was a very intelligent worker; joblessness is an enemy of distinction.
Proverbs 10:4 (KJV) He becometh poor that dealeth with a slack hand: but the hand of the diligent maketh rich.
No lazy man has a future in God’s kingdom. Idleness leads to begging and begging is not noble. As a woman, don’t be idle irrespective of how wealthy your husband may be.
Engage yourself in work. For a man to depend on his wife for livelihood is not wise. If Jesus could work and you do not work, who will you then look like? Idleness is a barrier that hinders the possibility of God blessing you; it does not matter if you are a giver. God does not reward idleness; he rewards and blesses the work of your hands.
Ensure you are doing something; God will use that work to enlarge and announce you to your world.
Rather than waiting for who will employ you, you can discover how to do your own business by being creative.
By so doing, you discover your potential thereby increasing your worth; provision will be guaranteed and you help others instead of waiting for who will give you money.
As you apply these principles from today, your family will always be distinguished in Jesus name –Amen!