What Every Single Christian Should Do
When we are single, we often allow fear to dominate our lives. Singleness can be especially hard for Christians.
Often, in the church, marriage is esteemed as the preferred, better, more desirable relationship status.
Illustrations about marriage are woven into countless sermons, many pastors reference their wives from the pulpit, and many small groups focus on married couples or families, leaving singles feeling excluded and lonely.
1. Seek Advice Regularly
Seek Biblical counsel and wisdom from other married Christians. Don’t be afraid to ask the hard questions.
Give them permission to speak into your life to help you grow as a single Christian and potentially as a married one.
Ask others to keep you accountable and to point out blinds spots. Be coachable. Ask for wisdom from fellow wise Christians to help you thrive during singleness and help prepare you for marriage.
Also, as Christians, we tend to be awkward when it comes to dating advice. If you find someone who loves Jesus and the church, and you are attracted to them and they are attracted to you – and you’ve prayed about it, then what are you waiting for?
3. Increase Your Confidence
There is an inner voice that is constantly analyzing everything about your life. We engage in positive and negative self-talk that have an impact on our feelings.
When your inner voice starts saying discouraging things such as, “I’m stupid,” “I’m ugly,” “Nobody wants me,” your insecurity increases and you start believing you are worthless.
Be gentle with yourself. Increase your value by having confidence in yourself. Confidence is attractive because if you believe you are valuable, so will others. Start increasing your confidence and self-esteem.
If you come across as a person who is confident and love yourself, you will be in a place of peace with yourself. Try new things, experiment and discover how much fun you can have with yourself.