Ways Of Dealing With A Jealous Partner
Jealousy is like a fungus in any relationship, and if not tackled effectively it can destroy it. Being involved with an overly jealous romantic partner can be extremely difficult. An insecure partner can be intrusive, invasive, irritating and annoying.
Even if you don’t consider yourself a particularly jealous person, when you’re in a relationship, it’s inevitable that you’ll experience bouts of jealousy from time to time, whether it’s rational or irrational.
“Jealousy isn’t necessarily bad, rather it signals to you that your emotional needs or feelings may be unmet,” Samantha Burns. Whether you’re seeking security and validation from your partner, or wanting to know that you are a top priority, it’s important to determine what the underlying reason is for your jealousy.
Here are some techniques for effectively handling jealousy:
Look for causes of jealousy
Jealousy often begins with one partner’s insecurity. Some possible reasons for that: your partner feels they are not lovable or are not getting the attention they deserve. Its important to talk to your partner and discuss what is letting jealousy begin and how to eradicate these negative feelings.
Talk to your partner about their fears and anxieties
It helps to let a jealous partner know that he or she can talk to you about his or her feelings; that you will listen to a partner’s fears and anxieties and try to understand where he or she is coming from. Try not to dismiss or discount jealous partner’s feelings (i.e., “Not that again… You are crazy… Where is this coming from?”). Discounting a spouse’s feelings only makes that person feel more misunderstood and it does not help solve the problem.
Be open with your partner
Try not to hide anything from your partner. Hiding things ignites tension in the relationship. Be open with your partner and avoid lying. Be open about your feelings to avoid arguments and differences. If you are sending emails or texts you need to delete before your partner sees them you are doing something wrong. Stop now.
Avoid being overfriendly with others
Some people enjoy their partner’s jealous and deliberately do things to provoke them. This might help an immediate need for attention but in the long run it will make the situation worse. Stop being overfriendly with other people, maintain a respectful distance. Avoid flirting and stay committed to your partner. Don’t ignore or be rude to others, be friendly within boundaries of respect for your mate.