The Family Is God’s Idea – Pastor Kenny Folarin
Marriage is not man’s idea. God created marriage and He also created the family. When God made man, He made it clear that He expects the man to have a family; every one of us should belong to a family.
God’s original intention for us is that we have dominion over the earth and this dominion is expressed when we multiply (Genesis 1: 26). One dictionary defines the family as “the basic unit of the society, having in its nucleus, two adults living together and co-operating in the care and rearing of their own or adopted children”.
When the devil wants to cripple the society, he first causes the family structure to deteriorate or disintegrate. Studies show that the Roman Empire was once one of the strongest empires that ever existed but over time, it was destroyed because family life was destroyed.
Anything you see in the society is a reflection of what goes on in the family. In God’s design, the family is the vehicle through which He expresses His will on earth (Genesis 12:3).
Scientific studies have also shown that anyone who has a strong family connection is more likely to survive crises (accidents, retrenchment or severe illnesses) than a person without a strong family bond. This is because those with strong family ties usually have people around to encourage them through difficult times.
We cannot talk about the family without talking about marriage. God expects us as Christians to uphold marriage as a covenant relationship between a man and a woman.
People who enter marriage without a proper understanding of the institution and its principles soon separate or experience a lot of difficulties. You must see your spouse, first and foremost, as your Christian brother or sister.
Therefore, you must treat your spouse as a child of God; as one of the households of faith. In every covenant relationship, there are responsibilities which have to be undertaken by each party.
Make your home a place of care and love and not a place where you tear down your spouse and children. No man is an island; appreciate the importance of your spouse (Genesis 2: 18; Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
God uses our family relationships to instill a God-like character in us. The family unit is where we first learn how to relate to others. We learn to love, submission, honor, and patience in the family. Another reason why the family exists is to raise godly offspring (Deuteronomy 6:4-9).
God also expects that family members pass on godly values like honesty, respect, humility, and consideration for others, from generation to generation.
Our first role models are found in the family. We need to build our homes and families on God’s word and biblical standards instead of traditional values, information from the clubhouse or fleshly advice (Matthew 7:24).
God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex and so another reason why marriage exists is to fulfill a couple’s sexual needs (Hebrews 13:4 TM; 1 Corinthians 7: 1-5). The devil is on a rampage to destroy families but by building your marriage on God’s principles, your marriage and family shall not be destroyed.