Whether the rejection is from a spouse or anyone else you trusted, you can follow these seven steps to get over it:
1. Reject the Enemy’s Attacks.
The fury and indignation was directed to her husband. She so wanted to change him, make him see his wrong ways, stir guilt in him so he would see God’s disapproval.
She was convinced that God’s plans were good plans. His will was to have a healthy marriage, thriving with love and understanding. Thus, if those were God’s plans. It was the enemy who was stealing that from them. He was the one who was killing their trust and was determined to destroy their relationship.
Her prayers changed from, “Lord, why us?” To “In the name of Jesus, I declare God’s victory over the enemy’s attack on my confidence, my security and my marriage.”
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” John 10:10
2. Develop a New Habit.
Nights with pillows wet with tears ended. Saturated your heart with God’s Word and embraced the truth that declared God’s love, His everlasting love for you.
Husband or not, marriage or not, God would never change His love for you. And to exercise that promise, day after day, she created a new habit to delete negative, destructive thoughts. You she erased thoughts of anger and disbelief, you quickly replaced them with notions of reassurance that God would do beyond what you imagined.
“And to know this love that surpasses knowledge–which you may be filled to the measure “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us.” Ephesians 3:19
3. Define Your Identity.
Initially, your husband’s rejection had left you with lost, dreading the possibility of being a single mom, a divorced woman or be labeled a failure.
But God’s Word said you are none of these. You have to received the identity of who you in God’s eyes—the daughter of the King, loved and cherished.
And as God’s child, first trusted not in someone else’s love, but in God’s love first.
That’s why peace visited her more often. you need to declared that as a child of God, His love would be enough—more than enough. The love no one or nothing could take away from you.
“I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” – Romans 8:38-39
5. Exchange Guilt for Hope.
Oh, how do you fought the nagging guilt? Could you have done something to cause the rejection? Did you fail him in anyway? Were you good enough anymore? And, would you ever be?
Those thoughts of self-condemnation nagged when you least expected. And you even entertained notions that God was punishing you for mistakes you made years ago.
Not so, God still came through to remind you that your hope is in Him. His mercy is extended towards you. And His grace covers her now. It did in the past, and it will in all your ways tomorrows.
“…teach me your paths; guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long. Remember, O LORD, your great mercy and love, for they are from of old. Remember not the sins of my youth and my rebellious ways; according to your love remember me, for you are good, O LORD.” Psalm 25:4-7
6. Increase Prayer and Praise.
Although the situation wasn’t resolved yet, your heart should be. Nights were calm and your days should be filled with more diligent prayer and more words that aligned with God’s Word.
With renewed confidence, your thoughts should be free from dark notions and hope for victory should fill your heart.
Thanked God for the outcome. And although there is no visible evidence, still thank Him for what He his already doing in your husband’s heart. Also thanked God for the change He created in you.
“Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 4
7. Expect the Best.
Using God’s wisdom, you have to declared the rejection from your husband as been a re-direction for you to change, to grow and to become more secure in Christ.
The pain of rejection didn’t sear anymore. you have to trust in God’s victorious promise that He would never reject you. On the contrary, He would be an ever-present help to you.
The change gave fruit. your husband will see the transformation in you. He will opened up and begin communicate once again. And counseling revealed areas both will worked on.
Going forward, vowed to put your trust in God and in Him alone. The source of her joy became the Lord. And as you worries decreased your confidence in God’s promises.
“… blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him. He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.” Jeremiah 17:7