You may ask, But why reviving? You will agree with me that in many homes, the level of love between a couple few years after marriage is not usually at the same level it was few months after the wedding. In most families, it is always on the decrease.
I will be sharing with you the first step to reviving or renewing your marital relationship.
One of the things that must be in place is your Expectation. The Word of God says: For surely there is an end; and thine expectation shall not be cut off (Proverbs 23:18).
Your expectations as a couple go a long way in seeing your home a blissful one. Every man sets a stage for his miracle. It is your expectation that gets fulfilled. One key factor for the miraculous is expectation. Do you totally believe in the covenant of hitch-free marriage?
Your expectations which are the desires of your heart must also be in line with the words of your mouth. The Bible says: Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer (Psalm 19:14).
This means that both the desire of your heart and the words of your month equals your expectation.
Having doubt in your heart and confessing with your mouth or vice versa will not guarantee your expectations to be a reality. Both the words of your mouth and the desire of your heart must be faith-filled to see your expectations become a reality.
Forget about old things; they are old. God is set to do a new thing in your family this month that will make you live every day of your life thanking Him.
God is set but you have to be set too. To be set, you must be determined to do some things, especially if a successful home is what you desire this year.
Don’t ever give room for complaints or comparison …but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise (2 Cor. 10:12).
Working in the reality of your expectation, you have to begin to see beyond your present situation. Husband, can you see a turnaround in the character of your wife? Can you see an abundance of peace, joy and harmony in your home? Wife, what do you see?
Do you see your husband turning from his sinful habits to pleasing God this year? Do you see his business going up and he begins to provide more for the family? Can you see serenity in your home? As far as you can see, it shall be given to you.
It is only what you see that you can possess. Stop seeing the negative.
Stop seeing your business going down because of general economic problems.
Stop deducing reasons why you think your family will not work. Stop celebrating failure.
Believe God and let it be counted to you for righteousness. If God has said it, let it be settled in your heart and in your actions, that He will do it.
Many years ago, I made up my mind to believe God’s Word in Proverbs 4:18 and I have never had cause to doubt it
. No previous year has been better than the current for me and my family.
In fact, my present position is the greatest I have ever been. God is ever faithful. Friends, see what is good and you shall always have it.
Don’t determine the happenings in your home this year by the environment. See into the plans of God for your life and family life, and assure yourself of the best of times ahead.
Someone once came to me for counseling years back and had been having a very tough time in marriage.
As she spoke, I discovered that the root cause of her problems was her wrong idea about marriage.
She had expected grief and calamity; so, when the storms rose against her marriage, she began to say, ‘They told me it will be like this’.
What you expect is what you will get. Like my husband, Bishop Oyedepo, would always say, ‘Expectation is the mother of manifestation’.
God has promised to grant your expectations. So, let your expectations be based on God’s Word, for it is higher than any evil experience or information you may have had or heard about marriage.
If you are already married, there is still a chance to change all negative expectations. As a couple, discuss your positive expectations and I guarantee that things will work out more smoothly in your home.
As single young men and women, what do you expect in marriage? It is important you set your expectation before getting into marriage.
Your expectations shall not be cut off! Before my husband and I got married, we made discoveries from God’s Word that made us expect a hitch-free marriage. Till today, those expectations have not been cut off. If you expect the best, it will be yours!