5 Things Healthy Married Couples Remember
Here are five things healthy married couples remember—at every stage.
THEY DON’T LET SOCIETY PULL THEM DOWN.
You will encounter many people who tell you that your marriage will fail. You may have close friends who are not very supportive. You will hear comments that make you second guess your commitment and you may ask yourself if your marriage will last. Stay active in church, read your Bible together, pray together and come together as one. Be adventurous, make memories, grow together as a couple and try new things together.
THEY DON’T EVER TALK ABOUT DIVORCE.
Once it’s out, it’s etched in your heart and mind forever. Russ and I made this mistake a long time ago and it was only through God’s grace that we overcame. Divorce is not an option for us—but working on our marriage is.
THEY REMEMBER THAT MARRIAGE IS NOT 50/50.
You cannot go into marriage with the mindset that you each must give 50 percent. Give 100 percent to your spouse and beautiful things will follow. Focus on what you are doing rather than looking for your spouse’s shortcomings.
THEY KNOW THAT YOU WILL CHANGE A LOT.
One thing I love about marrying my high school sweetheart is to see all the growth that has occurred in our lives both separately and together. We went to prom together and got our first jobs when we were together. I have seen my husband go from not really having a passion to thriving in his career as a firefighter and EMT. Give your spouse a chance to discover their passion and encourage them along the way. It’s an amazing thing to experience!
THEY START EVERY DAY WITH FRESH EYES.
Don’t let the pain or frustration from yesterday linger in your marriage. Trust God and face every day with a newfound sense of hope, a fresh pair of eyes and a desire to love your spouse unconditionally—through the ups and the downs. Get to know them more every day.