How To Use Loving Words With Your Spouse
Words are Powerful, The use of sweet loving words in a Marriage cannot be overemphasized, here are five ways you can make your spouse smile with the power of words.
“I choose you. And I’ll choose you over and over and over. Without pause, without a doubt, in a heartbeat. I’ll keep choosing you.”
— (Unknown)
“To love is nothing. To be loved is something. But to love and be loved, that’s everything.”
— T. Tolis
First, notice the impact of your words. You cannot change what you don’t see and accept. We all have “blind spots,” and it is up to us to become aware of our patterns and the impact of our words. Ask for feedback on how you speak to your mate and the impact of your words.
Second, take responsibility for helpful and hurtful words. Take responsibility for not only helpful words but hurtful words. No one makes you respond the way you do. You alone are responsible for choosing the words you do. Choose to lead the way in setting the emotional tone of your marriage.
Third, choose words that build up your mate. Words aptly spoken can have a powerful impact on the emotional tone of your marriage. You can have a profound impact on your mate’s self-esteem, not to mention the degree of love felt and expressed in your marriage.
Fourth, give honest feedback to your mate about their words. Again, we cannot change what we cannot see and own. We cannot read other’s minds and must give and receive honest feedback for change to occur. While it may be a bit threatening at first, practice giving honest feedback in a caring way. Create safety so that your mate can give honest feedback.
Finally, agree together to have your relationship filled with loving words. Make a commitment with your mate to fill your marriage with loving, kind words. Agree to use encouragement rather than criticism when asking for the changes you want. This is your marriage and you both are responsible for making it the marriage of your dreams.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
— Lao-Tzu
Article Written By Dr. David B. Hawkins
