It Was Hard, But We Had To Break Up-Christian Lovebirds
Sometimes, one gets so much emotionally attached to a partner, in such a way that to separate becomes hard, especially when one’s partner has same strong affection towards one. At times, one gets blind and never gets to see any handwriting on the wall. This ought not to be so.
Sequel to this, we published an article on 10 signs you need to stop dating your partner as a Christian. But, the responses we got indicated that it was a hard and painful thing to quit dating your loved partner.
However, we spoke to some married and single Christians who proved that it was possible to stop dating a partner no matter how deep the love is, should one notices any red signal.
Joy Onwuka, a mother of two narrated how she successfully ended her longtime dating with her boyfriend.
Onwuka said, “I dated a guy when I was in the Polytechnic. The guy was so much in love with me. He bought me gifts, pampered me. We dated for about 2 years. But, he was a Muslim. He really loved me and wanted to get married to me. He didn’t mind to convert to Christianity to get married to me.’’
“He was not even after sex. But, I was always not feeling at home with him in spite of all the love he showed me. I wanted to pull out from the relationship but I felt so much for him and didn’t want to make him sad, so, I continued.”
According to Onwuka, she knew she was not in the right relationship, and kept praying to God to help her.
She said, ‘’When God then spoke to me that I was going to get married to a pastor, precisely my then fellowship president, I knew it was about time to end the relationship. So, I called him one day and told him it was all going to be over that we were not meant to be together. It was really painful to both of us. It was a hard decision. After we broke up, I started praying for my husband to locate me. And miraculously, after about two years, my fellowship president which God told me came and proposed to me. We got married afterward and we are blessed with two kids today.’’
Another respondent, Nicholas Kadiri, shared how he sadly gave up on his dream wife.
Kadiri narrated: “The lady I was dating was lovely. I loved her so much. I spent much on her. I took her to places. I spoiled her with money. She would visit me, cook, and help me do things. She was already so close to my family and everybody loved her. We were planning to get married to each other.”
“However, things took another turn, the day I caught her red handed with another guy. I was mad and disappointed. I didn’t know she was cheating on me. I summoned her and we spoke. She felt so sorry but I was not willing to continue with the relationship. I told her I was sorry and that was how we ended the relationship.”
Like Nicholas, James Okeke narrated a similar ordeal. He was dating a sex addict according to him.
Okeke said, “My lady was beautiful. She was a nice girl and we both loved each other. Everybody knew us. I would have gotten married to her. But all through our dating, I noticed she was so much after sex. She was always pestering me with sex or lovemaking gist.”
“She would want me to kiss her always. Everything about her says she wanted sex even though we weren’t yet couples. I knew I couldn’t cope with such a lady because she is prone to cheat if we eventually get married. So I gradually left her. Even though I loved her, I could not allow that to push me into wrong marriage.”
Their stories are quite touching and inspiring. So, a Christian finds himself or herself with the wrong partner, would do more good than harm by quitting the relationship.