Things Movies Get Wrong About Relationship, Love and Marriage (Part 2)
Continued from Part 1
Partners who work together to strengthen their relationship with trust and communication will notice healthy natural changes that come as products of cooperation instead of co-opting one another says New York Life Coaching.
Jealousy Isn’t Healthy
While possessive behavior is obviously not healthy, a little jealousy can do a marriage good, according to Esther Perel, the relationship expert and author of “Mating in Captivity.” Advises that “You can’t desire what you have.” Desire is, of course, the wish to obtain something. A little healthy jealousy, which can only arise when partners maintain active social lives and identities apart from each other, can add a little spark.
“When you and your spouse have been married for a period of time, and your original desire has waned, sometimes a drop of jealousy can remind you that you’re not completely safe,” says Complete wellbeing. “Jealousy can remind us of the value of what we have.”
Marriage Has To Be Boring Some Times
Just like human beings, relationships have highs and lows. That’s part of what makes them exciting. If you and your partner are invested in and mindful about your relationship and your lives, it’s likely that you’ll both experience a lot of personal growth over the course of your time together—and that is hardly boring.
Traveling together, supporting each other on new career ventures, spicing things up in the bedroom, raising kids together … these are all adventures that you and your partner can choose to view as fun and exciting challenges.
Men Always Want More Sex Than Women Do
The stereotype goes that men in marriages constantly desire sex from their wives, while women have no primal desires of their own. Although modern women have many societal and financial stressors to deal with, which can lessen them from their sex drives, the truth is that women have just as many sexual needs as men do.
Cheating Never Happens In Loving Relationships
25 percent of women cheat and one third of men do the same. With cheating being such a common occurrence, does that mean all these couples simply don’t love each other? Of course not
42 percent of cheated-on spouses decide to work things out with their partner. The fact is, sometimes cheating happens, even in loving partnerships. Ideally, couples who decide to work through the issue should get help from a relationship counselor and re-invest their time and energy in their own relationship.
Your Partner Will Be Your Ultimate Source Of Fulfillment
Finally, it’s irrational to think that your partner will be able to satisfy every aspect of your being. People who enter romantic relationships looking for a best friend, business partner, travel buddy, co-parent, nurturing mother figure/protective father figure, spiritual guru and passionate sex partner are likely to be disappointed.
It’s healthy to derive some of your life fulfillment from other sources, such as friends, parents, siblings, children, hobbies and most importantly God. People shouldn’t expect their partners to be their perfect match in every area of their lives.