Jealousy in a relationship isn’t always easy to handle.
It can confuse anyone into believing that the relationship is threatened even if they’re in a perfect relationship.
Jealousy crops up in many ways, but in essence, it’s a sign of insecurity and the fear of losing the one you love.
And jealously in a relationship is never ever a bad thing.
No one chooses to be jealous, and almost always it’s misunderstanding and lack of communication that leads to jealousy.
How to deal with jealousy in a relationship
You may get jealous of your partner for several reasons.
You may not like the fact that they’re hanging out with someone else and having a lot of fun, or you may just feel insecure about losing your lover to someone else.
While jealousy due to misunderstanding is acceptable, irrational jealousy isn’t.
When a partner is threatened or feels jealous for the smallest of reasons, it’s almost always a sign of social insecurity and low self-esteem.
You may be driven by your fears of losing the one you love and your insecurities may reveal your jealousy as a plea for more love and care. It is human nature, after all, to crave for reassurance and love when doubt arises.
But you should always remember that jealousy is actually one of the biggest causes of the downfall of a relationship.
So when you do feel jealous, you don’t bring your partner closer. In fact, you drive them away with your behaviour!
1. Express Your Jealousy in A Soft Way
If you feel that your partner is doing something that is making you jealous, you can express how you feel and talk to them in a mature way.
You can also communicate it with humour, diplomacy or directly as long as it is respectful.
If you are humorous, you can joke about how insanely jealous you are when your partner pays attention to someone else.
Laugh with them as you say this because it will take the pressure off the topic and will get the message across.
When you are diplomatic, you can let them know that you love them a lot and know that they will never cheat on you.
And if you are direct, just tell them that you trust them, yet cannot control your feelings and want them to consider how you feel.
2. Appreciate Yourself
One of the main reasons why people get jealous is that they have low self-esteem and insecurity issues.
They tend to think that they are not good enough, their partner will realize this and will leave them for someone else. You need to know that there is a reason why your partner liked you in the first place and got together with you.
If you need some reaffirmation or appreciation, don’t hesitate to ask for that too (within reason of course).
The next time you feel jealous, remember that your partner is with you because they want to be with you because of your positive qualities.