Most people have had a relationship in their life where things did not go well. Whether it was a marriage, a friendship, or a coworker, it is not uncommon for us to occasionally have a problem getting along with someone.
There are even numerous TV shows where individuals discuss their problems in front of a national audience. Many of these shows are nothing more than entertainment for those looking for a fight. Unfortunately, the mainstream media does not offer a show that provides Biblical advice for those in bad relationships.
Does the Bible teach about relationships?
Most people do not realize that the Bible is a book about relationships and only know the Bible as a book about religion. Jesus clarified that relationships were most important to God when He attended a dinner at Matthew’s house (Matthew 9:10-13).
Jesus met Matthew, a tax collector, and told him to follow Him. Later, Jesus ate dinner at Matthew’s house with other tax collectors and people the Bible calls sinners. The use of the word sinners in this passage refers to people who would not commonly be seen as fine, upstanding, synagogue-attending members of the community.
When the Pharisees saw Jesus eating with them, they asked the disciples why Jesus was eating with publicans and sinners. Jesus overheard them and said to them, “They that be whole need, not a Physician, but they that are sick.” He followed with a challenge for them to go and learn what he meant and quoted Hosea 6:6, “I will have mercy, and not sacrifice” and followed with, “…for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.”
In Hosea 6:6, the words that Jesus quoted are followed by the words “…and the knowledge of God more than burnt offerings.” This verse is part of a passage of scripture that rebukes a group of priests for destroying lives and committing lewdness.
More specifically, they were rebuked for hypocrisy, teaching false doctrine, and emphasizing religious works over a relationship with God.
More from the Bible about relationships
Sometimes when I counsel people who are struggling in a relationship they think that all they need for me to do is point out who is wrong and send them on their way after a proper scolding. Or, they may want me to tell them what to do in one session and are not interested in investing the time or effort to learn about how to have a healthy relationship.
For any relationship to survive it must have a common foundation and purpose. If the individuals involved do not share common beliefs or worldviews that affect their relationship, there will be strife.
Two or more people cannot walk together in harmony unless they are in agreement with how they walk (Amos 3:3).
This is best illustrated in 2 Corinthians 6:14-18. This passage tells us not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
The idea of being unequally yoked is a reference to putting two different animals in a yoke while trying to plow a field. Different animals are different sizes, they have different gaits, and they have different attitudes when it comes to completing a task.
When you have two different animals pulling a plow it makes it almost impossible to plow a straight line.
Finally, we are taught that we should have the mind of Christ and model his example when it comes to relationships.
He was not about making a name for Himself or making Himself look good. Instead, He took upon himself the role of a servant to humanity and humbled Himself to the point of even dying for our benefit. Jesus literally demonstrated the idea of loving God first and your neighbor as yourself to accomplish this.