’Do I have any talents?’ ’What if I’m not doing what’s right for me?’ ’What if I’m calling in life is completely different?’ questions of this kind run through the minds of thousands of people around the world regardless of their age.
If you’re one of those people, maybe it’s time to take a break and work out who it is you really are.
1: Recall all of your dreams
The first thing which you need to do is recall all of the real dreams you’ve had throughout your life — right back to childhood through to your school and college years, and finally as an adult. Write them down.
2: Separate ’to have’ and ’to be’
Now that you’ve written down all your dreams, you need to separate them into two categories:
’To have’ dreams: those which involve you gaining posession of something you don’t have right now.
’To be’ dreams: those which involve you taking on some new role in life.
Now write out the ’to be’ dreams separately — we’re only going to work with them.
3: What provoked a reaction in you?
Do you remember if you ever felt a quiver excitement when you looked on at someone else fulfilling a certain role in life? Do you want to be in their place? If so, write it down.
4: What did you enjoy doing?
Note down any activities or hobbies which you have enjoyed doing in the past. What did you like doing when you were a child, or a teenager, and as an adult? What do you enjoy doing now?
5: Get rid of what you don’t need
Look through all that you’ve written down so far. Think hard about each of your ’to be’ dreams, and see which ones still cause an emotional reaction in you — that feeling of excitement discussed in step 3. Now imagine yourself in those roles. What would you be doing at this moment if you were in that role? How do you feel?
Pay attention to how strong your emotional reaction is to imagining yourself in the various roles. Evaluate the strength of your reaction for each on a scale of 1 to 10.
6: Search for an outlet for your talents
Think about and then write down all of the possibilities for realising your dreams in real life.
What area of professional or your personal life are we talking about here? What kind of activities does it involve?
Do your dreams and talents have a bearing on more than one area of activity or profession?
The more ideas you come up with here the better.