Kindness Begins At Home- Pastor Sam Adeyemi
Some of the most diverse or extreme emotions people experience in life occur within the family setting. Joseph experienced extreme emotions in his family. His father loved him but his brothers hated him. In the same house, he heard encouraging words which validated him and also discouraging words which put him down (Genesis 37: 3-4). There is the general tendency to be envious, hateful and excessively angry because of the sin nature in man. The first murder happened within the context of the family when Cain killed his brother, Abel (Genesis 4).
One major reason why the family exists is for the grooming of children into responsible and loving adults. God could have created billions of human beings at once but He chose that we should be born as babies. He also decided that the previous generation had the responsibility of training the following generations. The first Adam was created in the full body of an adult but was tripped up by Satan. The last Adam was born as a baby, whose growth was gradual and more wholesome (Luke 2:52).
In recent times, more parents are putting the responsibility of training their children on schools and the junior church. If children do not experience kindness at home, they won’t have kindness to give the society. The Bible instructs fathers not to provoke their children (Ephesians 6:4 MSG). You can never be too kind to your child or over-love them. Involve the Holy Spirit in the grooming of your children. Do not speak negative, hurtful words into their lives (Colossians 3:21). Being kind to them does not mean that they should not be corrected or disciplined. However, do not correct them out of anger and frustration.
To raise kind children, observe the following:
- Show kindness to your spouse because your children are watching your attitude to each other. Be courteous and respectful to one another because they are being programmed for their own future marriages.
- Show kindness, tenderness and sympathy to the children themselves. Do not always point out what they have done wrong; say kind words to them because they are also people. There is no point in correcting a child when you have not taught them what to do.
- Watch your friendships and theirs lest you pick up bad traits from bad relationships (1 Corinthians 15:33). You cannot hang around mean people without becoming mean (Proverbs 22:24-25 MSG). Anger in itself is not wrong but excessive, destructive anger is not encouraged. Do not bring gossips and people who speak foul language into your home.
- Show kindness to everybody without prejudice. Do not promote racial, ethnic, generational or gender prejudice in your home (Colossians 3:8-11). Promote equality in your home.
- Pray and study the Bible together. The greatest act of kindness can be seen in Christ’s life (1 Peter 2: 22-24). Study models of kindness found in the Bible.
- Be kind to your own parents and your in-laws. The Bible declares there is a blessing for honoring your parents. Love your parents in spite of their mistakes. Break the cycle of harshness.
Finally, Let the Holy Spirit heal you and birth kindness in you; just like He did in the life of Joseph.