Enemies Of Happy Home – Dr. D.K. Olukoya
A good marriage is the outcome of prayer, diligence, love and hard work. In the same vein, a bad marriage is caused by prayerlessness, selfishness, laziness and unhealthy attitudes. It takes a lot of effort to experience success and happiness in marriage.
The step that one should take is to deal with the hindrance to success in marriage. A marriage is declared a success or a failure due to certain ingredients that are either present or lacking in it.
Your home (marriage and family) may be a little heaven on earth or the abode of diabolical spirits.
If you really want to enjoy your marriage, you must painstakingly and deliberately deal with the enemies of a happy home.
What are these enemies of a happy home? *Selfishness:* It is totally wrong and unscriptural to continue to think and behave selfishly after getting married.
A married man and woman who always talks about “my car, my house, my books, my money” etc does not know what a true Christian marriage is all about.
Husbands and wives who are always thinking about what they can get out of marriage rather than what they can give or contribute in order to make their marriages successful, need to know that selfishness hinders the progress of a family.
A man or woman who is always eager to seize opportunities and grab advantages but is never willing to make sacrifices, without knowing it, is paving the way for the collapse of his or her home.
Another enemy of a happy home in today’s world is impurity that is, unfaithfulness and infidelity in marriage. Many a home has been wrecked by this. Sexual promiscuity and infidelity have ruined many lives and homes.
The third enemy of a happy home is *lack of commitment.* Many marriages have not been fulfilled because the partners are not committed to each other and to their marital vows.
If you want your marriage to be healthy, happy and stable, there must be a commitment to nurture and preserve it the same way you care and preserve your own life.
The fourth harbinger to broken homes and unsuccessful marriages is yielding to societal pressure and ungodly counsel. Sad enough, many are seeking and entering a marriage based on pressure and not on biblical counsel and standards. Marriage, after all, is a divine institution that must be approached with utmost care. To deal with the enemies of a happy home, God, the inventor of marriage must be consulted.
If your marriage is not what it should be, then invite God, the inventor of marriage into your relationship. He specializes in fixing strained relationships and broken homes. He will heal your marriage and you will experience true peace and joy.