How To Communicate Effectively With Your Spouse
Today, many marriages break down as a result of faulty communication. Couples talk and nag until they become wary of each other. Why? Because there is no effective communication.
Communication is very vital in a marriage. You may not enjoy your marriage if you and your spouse don’t know how to communicate effectively. It is like having gold in a garden, but not knowing how to dig it out. The gold is the re, but as long as it is not dug out, you cannot be enriched by it.
That is why the basis of any fruitful and lasting relationship is effective communication. God, our Father and our ultimate example, proved this to us by communicating His plans and intentions to those whom He trusted. He spoke clearly to Moses, Samuel, David, right through to Jesus and beyond Him, to those of us who love and serve Him.
Marriage without effective communication can never work! In times past, particularly in African societies, women were regarded as mere objects and a part of a man’s possessions. They were not consulted on major issues, neither were their views regarded as important.
In those days, women stayed married because they had no choice; but that has never been God’s plan. He made marriage as an avenue for both husband and wife to find fulfillment, and this comes when there is effective communication.
Remember, it takes deliberate efforts to build an enviable home. Thus, effective communication is one of the requirements for building a successful marriage and family. Note that the need to constantly improve your communication skills and strategy cannot be over-emphasized.
However, no matter how effectively you communicate with your spouse and family members right now, it can still be improved upon; because there is always a better way of doing things. As someone rightly said ‘the largest room in the world is the room for improvement.’
Don’t ever believe that you are communicating the best way. The truth is: You can communicate better than you have been doing before if you care to constantly improve on the strategies you engage.
Communication is the key to success in marriage. A wise man said, “If you talk together, you stay together,” and I believe it is very true. Marriage is about living lives together!
Adam’s family, for example, will help you appreciate the importance of effective communication. God commanded Adam not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Adam, I suppose, believed, but failed to effectively communicate the seriousness of this command to Eve; and she took it lightly. If you read the account carefully, you will find that in Eve’s dialogue with the serpent, she mentioned that God “said”, not “commanded” (Genesis 3:3). But God did not just say, He commanded.
So, communication must first be one-on-one, between the man and his wife, and then other members of the family. That responsibility cannot be shifted to God. He will not leave heaven to come to your home and speak to your wife or your children on your behalf. It is a non-transferable responsibility.
This article was written by Pastor Faith Oyedepo who has Authored many books on Marriage including Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).